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How to Break Up With Your Phone By Catherine Price

Is your phone is the first thing you reach for in the morning and the last thing you touch before you go to your bed? And you want to get rid of it? If yes, so stay tuned!

Hey! Everyone this is Tanya and today will be talking about the book “How to breakup with your phone” by Catherine price.

Now, I want to make one thing very clear that breaking up with your phone doesn’t mean throw your phone under a bus. So, here breaking up with your phone means give yourself a chance to stop and think. It means setting boundaries between your online and offline lives. It means prioritize real-life relationship over those on screen.

No doubt our smart phones are amazing.

They notify us about our appointments, shopping lists, anniversaries, birthdays etc. Dj’s. They are cameras. help us keep in touch with family and friends. They tell us about the weather and traffic & like a lot more. So, smartphones are great tools. But today we can see that their impact on our lives might not be entirely good. We feel busy but useless. Connected but lonely. The same technology that used to make us happy now sounds irritating. We often hate our smartphones the way they make us feel but no one seems to know what to do about it. So, let me tell you one thing that problem isn’t smartphones themselves. The problem is actually our relationship with them. We are never going to break up with our phones unless we think it’s vitally important to do so.

This book is divided into 2 parts. 1^st part is “wake-up”, which is designed to freak you out.  Like why and how phones are designed to be hard to put down. And the second part is “the breakup” that gives to the solution regarding what to do.

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How to Break Up With Your Phone By Catherine Price

Part 1:- Wake up

Our phones are designed to addict us. Just as drugs have become more powerful overtime, smartphones are no less. The product designers know how to push and encourage us to use their product not just once but over and over.

Now, you might be wondering that how we are getting addicted to it?

So, here is the answer. When we check our phone, we usually find something satisfying- a complimentary email, a text from a crush, an interesting piece of news, someone has shared a meme with you and so on. And above all, a notification that says someone has mentioned you in a comment or story hits us different every time. And this receipt of reward attracts us towards our smart phones. All these things happen because we human beings are social creatures and we desperately want to be loved. We want approvals from others. If we post a picture and number of likes in few hours

we automatically believe that people like us.

Nowadays polls are there on social-media to make a choice between something. Those features aren’t there by accident but designers know that humans have an intrinsic desire for approvals and being judged. Usually we have seen that some of our apps are designed to automatically play the next video or episode. It is because that if next episode will automatically starts playing after the previous one, then we are less likely to stop watching as we are lazy enough to stop it.

Next thing we need to know is that our phone messes with our memory. Our brain have 2 forms of memory. Short term and long term. And our phone affects both. If a person is described herself as feeling happy, sad, excited, anxious, ignored, frustrated, depressed within the space of 5 mins, she likely would have received diagnosis. Similarly our phones are also Pandora boxes of emotions. Every time we check them, we open ourselves up to an unpleasant surprise. You could get an email that worries you or there’s new story that makes you angry or a post that makes you sad. And most of the time we end up feeling stressed about it. So, this is how our phones are spoiling us.

Part 2:- The Break-up

Your Break-up is going to be 30 days challenge i.e. 4 weeks because it takes time to change habits.

So, here is the week-1 “Technology Triage” which says download a tracking app. This has to be done so that you can compare the amount of time you are spending on your phone per day. Now continue your mindfulness practice by paying attention to how and when you use your phone and how you feel when you do so. And in coming 3-4 days just look at the results from the tracking app you just installed and pen down everything. On day 5 of 1^st week, delete all social media apps. As we know that social media is like junk food, once we start consuming it, it’s really hard for us to stop. So, let’s take a control over it.

If you want to get rid of this problem so do it now.

Put your finger on the app icon until its start jiggling and then uninstall it. The app panicking will ask you (“Are you sure you want to delete me”) so, say yes and uninstall. I am here not trying to get you off of social media, you can obviously check it through your phone or computer’s internet browser instead on an app. And from browser also try to open it 2-3 times a day that’s it. By doing this you will end up with more time. In this free time do something that you actually want to do and above all get physical means go for a walk, do yoga, get a massage, etc. And the 1^st week ends here.

Now, we are in week 2 which says “Change Your Habits”

Here day 8 says, say “No” to notifications. It is because notifications actually forces us to check our phones. Every time you hear a notification, you know that there is something new waiting for you. So, stop this. Do it now. Go to your phone’s notification settings and turn off all notifications except phone calls. After this some people may find that they check more often when their notifications are off than they are on. If this happens to you as well so you may re-enable it but I recommend waiting for a day or two before you do so.

#Phonehack 😀