The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson
Hey! guys. Welcome to Novel chit chat. Today will be talking about “The subtle art of not giving a fuck” by Mark Manson. So, this is one of the best book that I have ever read. This is one of my favorite book and I just loved it so let’s get started. The subtle art of not giving a fuck is actually about choose the fuck you give in your life. It says mainly give the fuck about things that actually matters. People give a fuck about each and everything and that’s bad, every little thing should not bother you otherwise you will found yourself depressed, stressed and full of anxiety.
By doing this you will make your life more miserable.
Today we live in a society where people are too judgmental. The people around you will rate you, break you and judge you no matter how good or bad you are doing and our social media is doing justice to this. We don’t need judges anymore we already have them in our friend list’s. Just kidding but it’s a bitter truth. Since childhood whatever we do we always give a thought about one thing i.e what will people say or in simple language “log kya kahenge” and this novel is exactly about this. Let’s get started.
There is one quote in this book that is “whether you realize it or not you are always choosing what to give a fuck about” it means that it’s in our hand that if we want to give a fuck about particular situation or not. If people are talking behind your back, it’s their problem not yours. You don’t need to care about this. You just have to keep going and bring your A-game. When we were young we give a fuck about everything and everyone. About what people are saying? Whether that cute boy or a girl called us back or not. Whether our socks matches or not or what color I’m gonna choose on my birthday balloons and so on. Every little thing matters to us.
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But as we get older with experience we became very selective about the fucks we are willing to give. Those people, those opinions that we cared once are no longer present in our lives at all. Now we are very mature and we are very selective about the things we care. The next thing that I have learned from this book is” The more isn’t always better” in our lives we always run after something either it’s money or a luxurious life or whatever but this book tells us that you actually don’t need all this to be happy. The only thing that you need is the peace of mind. That’s why it is said that the more isn’t always better.
For example:- You are thirsty and you need a glass of juice for drinking.
So, the first glass that you will get of a juice will give you a lot of satisfaction. Then you decide to have one more and the second glass will give you a little less satisfaction as compared to the first one. Then you go for one more and one more until you are full and then there comes a point where you don’t need even a single glass of juice once more. You are totally full it means that “the more we have something the less we enjoy” it’s not that you should not work hard for money obviously you should but taking care of yourself is equally more important.
Sometimes we get so mad for that luxurious life and for our dreams that we actually forgot to live for happiness and ends up in depression anxiety and stress, sometimes it leads to the suicidal cases. People start doing suicide because they don’t have any option they have made their life miserable on their own. Happiness is important over money or anything. The most important thing is happiness. Do whatever but don’t forget to enjoy your life. Do what makes you happy not what people told you to do so.travel
Next thing that I learned from this book is “Choose your struggle”
we have always heard from people that what you want to do in your life? Or what are your dreams? So, we always answer these ques like I want to get rich, I want to get Ferrari ,BMW and so on but nobody asked you that what pain you want to go through to reach that goal? And it’s the most needed one I feel.
Do remember, without struggle you are nowhere. Ask yourself what pain I want from life? You need to ask this question to yourself that what pain I want from life because what pain you are ready to go through is the amount of success you are gonna get. As hard work pays off. We all know this and you cannot achieve anything without struggling for it. You need to work hard there is no alternate to it. Next point that I learned from this book is “Fault and responsibility” we have usually seen that we act as a victim and whatever the situation, we are suffering we just blame on others.
We just keep on blaming others for the current situation. Happiness depends upon you and you have to note it down, if you are suffering from something, if you are a victim of a particular situation so you need to change on your own.
Nobody is going to serve you a plate and give it to your mouth. You have to work for yourself. You have to make yourself happy again. We always blame our external environment or people for our sufferings. It’s ok if they did you wrong but are you gonna cry for the whole life over this? Of course not, you have to move on. It’s your life, make it a best one. Now the question arises how to move on? You have to distract yourself, you can go to the gym, you can work on yourself or do whatever makes you happy. Do anything that distract you from the miserable situation.
The next thing that I have learned from this book is “The importance of saying No” Since childhood I have heard from everyone that say “Yes” to everything. It’s good to say yes but this book says that there is an importance of saying “no” let’s see how? If you are in a particular situation and you don’t agree with saying yes so then you should say no.
You should take the stand for yourself.
Learn to say no to the things which are actually not good for you. Think about yourself not about people because sometime rejections make you a better person. The act of choosing a value for yourself requires rejecting alternative values. To value “X”, if I want “X” in my life then I need to reject all the things that are non “X” Rejection is an important life skill. Like nobody want to stuck in a relationship they are not happy in, nobody wants to do a job they are not happy in, nobody wants to do a particular thing which is not making them happy. So,
If a particular thing or a situation is not making you happy then why are stuck in it? Get out of it man and move ahead. Make sure you please yourself first then think about pleasing anyone else. Recite on repeat! I have to get out of it no matter what and here you go. You are responsible for your life either make it a better one or lose it. It’s your choice. Good luck! J Novel